We talked about his behavior and what the consequences would be. I was clear that he wasn't a bad boy and I didn't hate him, I just didn't like his behavior. We try to use logical consequences with him:
- He takes off his seatbelt while we are driving he is fined just like I would have been if the police stopped us.
- He throws a football in my face he loses the football for a week.
It was decided that he would do 3 good deeds. This included him doing the dishes one night, emptying the kitty litter and today he helped me with shoveling the driveway and a bunch of other cleaning. All of this was done with no complaints which is great.
The biggest change since then has been in his affection levels. Since Wednesday he has been super cuddly, he calls me mommy much more often, he has said "I love you" multiple times, and he gives spontaneous kisses. Tonight when I was doing the laundry we had the following conversation:
Jr: I love you mommy
Me: I love you too Jr.
Jr: You don't need to call me by my name anymore
Me: If I don't call you by your name what would I call you.
It is so funny how kids think.
There has also been a great deal of progress this week with him playing on his own. He is now able to sit down and play by himself and in another room which is huge.
I know we still have a long road ahead and this may not seem like progress to some, but I think it is huge.