You try to read as much as possible prior to adopting from foster care but no matter how many books you read or people you talk to you will never be prepared for the challenges that you face.
Not knowing your child's history. There will be stories that sound true or some that sound impossible to be true but you will likely not know for sure where the truth actually lies.
Not having baby pictures. There are no pictures from junior's first 3 years of life. I find this sad but also wonder how it will impact him when he has to bring in a baby picture for a school project.
Having children ask why your child sometimes calls you by your first name.
Correcting stories that have been told to him in the past. I finally found out why junior hates the doctor. "Kids that don't behave get sent to the hospital."
Not having the words to comfort your child when he cries that he misses his mommy and it is sad that he can't speak to her anymore.
Seeing somebody in public that looks like bio mom and wondering if it is her or if your child will think it is her.
Not knowing what words, actions or behaviors will trigger a bad memory.
All we can do is take things a day at a time, learn from our mistakes and celebrate the small victories.