There always seem to be lots of questions when people find out we are adopting. I am happy to answer any question that people have. I might not have the answer or I might choose to say that is a private matter but if you have questions feel free to ask.
Some of the common questions we have received so far.
Are you adopting through the state or an agency?
We selected a private agency. In November we went to an informational night for our county and were told they were not taking applications for people wanting to adopt children under the age of 10. The main goal for children under 10 is reunification. We were directed to look into a private agency for adoption in the age range we wanted. While there are many private agencies many specialize in infant or international adoptions, we found one that has a program dedicated to foster to adopt. Thankfully at the orientation we both really like the social worker and program director, this made it an easy decision to pick the agency.
One of the added benefits of a private agency is they can work with every county in CO as well as other states, opening up more doors for us.
Why aren't you adopting an infant, you will miss all the important milestones like first steps, first words, etc?
It seems like there are so many children in need of a home, we did not feel a burning need to raise a child from infancy. While there are developmental milestones we will have missed there will be so many firsts to celebrate. Another consideration was my age, I would prefer not to have a child still in college when I retire.
Do you want a boy or girl?
I have no preference, Dave wants at least one boy as he is currently surrounded by girls (me, Paddy and Koda). If we only adopt 1 child it will be a boy, if we end up adopting a sibling pair (yes we are considering this) it will either be 2 boys or a boy and a girl.
How long will the process take?
Who knows. Based on the training we need to take and other factors we likely will not be licensed until the end of May at the earliest. After that point it could be a couple of weeks or over a year to be matched. It will all depend.