This process is going to be anything but easy, if everybody that wanted to be a parent had to go through this process many people would change their mind. We are doing foster to adopt, I am not sure how different the process is for other types of adoptions. Here's what we have done and what we will be doing over the coming months.
Initial application, with this we had to provide 3 references, our tax returns from last year, and our employment history.
The second round of paperwork was much more involved. With this we needed to complete
- Fingerprints for federal background checks.
- State background check.
- Family medical background as well as a results from a current physical. The physical also required results from an HIV test.
- We each had to fill out a questionnaire about our childhood, relationship with our families, and our relationships with each other.
- A 60 question form about what characteristics we want or would accept form a child. Questions included questions such as would accept a child with learning disabilities, a child that harms animals, has nightmares or smokes.
- A notarized document indicating we understand and accept the fee structure.
The characteristics questionnaire was the strangest component for me. It makes it feel like we are shopping for a child like you would for a house or a car -creating a list of must haves, nice to haves and deal breakers. We kept thinking that some of the items didn't really apply giving the age range of 3-8 that we are looking for. I would really hope there aren't a lot of children in that age range that would smoke, drink or do drugs.
Now that the second round of paperwork is being put in the mail this week the next steps will include
- Completing a first aid and CPR course
- A 6 week training course
- The home study
Once these are completed we will be officially licensed and can then begin the matching process. This by no means is going to be a quick and easy process, but it in the end it will be worth it.